Comments for Una Vita Bella

Comment on I Haven’t Forgotten by Jill B

Jill B — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:16:54 +0000

Thanks – I’m there with you. It’s nice to hear a voice closer to my own in terms of fibro. I know I’m lucky that if I can keep a work-rest-exercise-mental-etc balance I’m in much better shape most of the time.

Comment on I Haven’t Forgotten by phoenix143

phoenix143 — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 13:48:49 +0000

I do not have Fibro but many I love do and when I was experiencing debilitating they all recognized my pain to be Fibro. Now that I have been delivered I want to learn everything about Fibro and return the favor. But I want to do it with sensitivity. When you have been delivered from pain it may come off as condescending to say just do what I have done. I have tremendous empathy for my friends with Fibromyalgia and have made it my mission to learn as much as I can in order to be that support those women were to me. I love this post it so addresses where I am in the journey I cannot forget that 8 months ago I was sucking down opiates and talking about a cane.

Comment on I Haven’t Forgotten by Neil

Neil — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 15:59:45 +0000

Amy – so happy for you ~ Your strength and faith are inspirational.

Comment on Hello Good Friend by Kimi Finley

Kimi Finley — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 06:58:47 +0000

“I have thought of you, my readers, I have thought of myself, the pieces of me that I left here open, breathing, sometimes seeming lifeless but always still alive in my words. I have wondered if I could ever return, for what I feel like I have been facing these last few months seems more than I can reveal to the world, feels more secret than any of the secrets I have shared here before”

I love this description, i have felt the exact same way about blogging. Thanks for putting my feelings into words.

Comment on Tug of War by Dan L. Hays

Dan L. Hays — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 15:33:57 +0000

As always, Amy, I appreciate your honesty. “Life feels so messy today.” Yes, I know that place well. I too have struggled with balancing the day to day errands and chores of life with trying to carve my niche in the world.

I too have had the experience of trying to be myself and being “shot down” but those I trusted (my issue for giving my trust and that power to the wrong people). As a matter of fact, that will be the topic of my next memoir. It was a hugely painful event, but turned into one of the most healing experiences of my life. It propelled me forward in amazing ways! I do understand your “tug-of-war” Amy!

Dan

Comment on Tug of War by Wendy Love

Wendy Love — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 12:06:31 +0000

You are on quite a journey. I wish you well in your decision to create some boundaries. Maybe this old saying will help: ‘Be who you are and say what you feel because those that matter don’t mind, and those that don’t mind matter.’ It is always hard to make choices that will not be met with unanimous applause, but hey, what about all of those times you discipline your children, hard to do, but necessary. And when your children grow up to be fine adults, you can be glad you made some hard choices. I have had to put up boundaries because of mental illness. I certainly have not felt like ‘the most popular girl in school’ as I have done it but I am healthier as a result. There is a positive pay-off. Don’t give up.

Comment on Tug of War by Virginia

Virginia — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 05:11:54 +0000

Amy, I love your posts and yes, I can identify with you. I always look forward to seeing an e-mail notifying me of your latest post because they always remind me that I’m not alone in what I struggle with and maybe it’s ok to feel the way I do. Keep sharing your heart…know that you are making a difference and know that you are loved!!

Comment on Tug of War by Kelly Babcock

Kelly Babcock — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 04:58:22 +0000

So good to “hear your voice” again, you always have a powerful message for us. Keep up the great work, Abeeliever

Kelly

Comment on Tug of War by Kelvin

Kelvin — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 03:47:51 +0000

It is an exciting journey, this road to empowerment. It comes first, I think, from a place of knowing who you are and what you truly believe. Once you’re there, there’s the comfort of knowing that you are acting in concert with your own beliefs and values, but that doesn’t necessarily mean people will agree with you. In some relationships, asserting your own empowerment means the other person feels less empowered, because they have less influence over you. Those are growing pains until two (or more) people can truly understand, respect and appreciate each others’ autonomy, and understand that you exercising your own best judgement means that you are valuing your own self more, rather than valuing them less. Occasionally a tough lesson, whether for a parent, lover, child or even concerned friend.

You may strive to make healthy and best choices, but that’s a moving target. You can only do the best you can do, but oh always have the option of making a different choice if the previous one didn’t work out as planned or envisioned. No one makes the perfect choice all the time. As you learn more and better, your choices will reflect that learning.

I believe you have great wisdom AND strength, patience and tolerance. And as long as you are willing to learn from your experiences, you’ll be fine. But don’t expect “the world” to agree with all of your decisions. There’s usually not just one answer. While many people would love to run your life for you, ultimately you are the person who has to live your life. There’s a passage in my favorite book — Illusions — that says, your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself. To be true to anything or anyone else is not only impossible, the the mark of a fake…” we’ll, the passage says “fake Messiah” but we can leave that part off in this case.

Believe in yourself, my friend. There are many of us who believe in you, so you have good company. Have a blessed day.

Kelvin

Comment on Tug of War by Abeeliever

Abeeliever — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 01:16:57 +0000

Thank you so very much… it means so much, always, to know that I am not alone in this big, big world!